Isolation Is a Dream Killer

One of the participants at my recent Voice Your Vision retreat shared this powerful quote from Barbara Sher, “Isolation is a dream killer.”

Similarly, my teacher Sonia Choquette says, “You cannot do it alone.”

How true!

As a sensitive woman, mother, home-based business owner, spiritual coach, intuitive, hand analyst, and ready-to-take-the-world-by-storm creative writer, I can tell you that the hardest days are when I feel like I have no one to turn to and there’s no one else out there who gets who or where I am. Luckily, I’ve learned a few things about this along the way.

When it comes to making your dreams real, here are a few things to keep in mind:

1. Your nascent vision is like a tiny seedling. Plant it in fertile soil, water it, nurture it, and protect it. Don’t put it somewhere it could be trampled on. Share it only with your best supporters.

2. Get the right support from the right people. You must have “believing eyes” to witness your project into wholeness. Do not allow the naysayers and doubters to topple your tiny creation before it learns to stand on its own two feet.Get in touch with your supporters when you need them, and do the same for them. Make sure you have a balanced, equal exchange with people who are emotionally whole enough to truly be there for you.

3. Dream big or stay at home. Don’t hold back from your vision — go all the way with it. Push yourself to your creative edge. Ask, “How can I take this to its next greatest level of expression?” If you need help pushing yourself to that precipice,  you’re in the right place. You’ll be seeing more from me modeling this very, very soon (stay tuned!).

4. Don’t take your critics too seriously. Like most of us, you probably make the mistake of listening to criticism (from yourself or from other people) far too early in your creative process. Your inner critics are speaking from fear and doubt, and your outer critics are doing the same. Very often, your outer critics are simply projecting their own fear and excuses onto you. So take it with a grain of salt. And turn to your supporters to get you back on track when you make the mistake of listening to the wrong voice.

5. Trust yourself, first. So often you dismiss your greatest, deepest truths because you think they are too simple, too complicated, too unrealistic, etc. But if you simply allow yourself the permission to explore what your inner voice is telling you, miraculous things can happen. You may want and need to have your inner truths heard and witnessed before you’re willing to give ourselves that permission.

That’s where your supporters or coach come into play. Either way, sometimes allowing yourself to voice your vision to the right listeners is just the powerful kick-start you need to make your dream become a reality.

Did this spark anything for you? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.

What’s Jenna Up To?

~> November 22nd, 2010. Leading a private in-person half-day retreat in Berkeley, California.

~> November 29th, 2010. Mark Your Calendar! My annual birthday sale is coming up — one day only. Details to be announced soon.

~> November 29th, 2010. Also on my birthday: Doing a photo shoot for my new website photos with the fabulous Lindsay Miller.

~> January 21st & 22nd, 2011. Voice Your Vision Mastermind Retreat. In-Person Workshop in Berkeley, California. Clarify your unique vision to implement your Life Purpose in a specific, step-by-step plan. FOUR SPOTS remaining. This small group retreat is perfect for you if you know your purpose but you’re wondering, “What’s next?” For details, send a blank email to: Early registration ends November 26th.

~> January 27th & 28th, 2011. Powerful Strategies to Slay Your Inner Critic Demons So You Can Leap Into the Creative Spotlight.” Appearing as a guest expert at Baeth Davis’s “Claim Your Spotlight” program in Los Angeles, California.

~> Spring 2011. Virtual Workshop: Claim Your Calling: 5 Steps To Get You Back On Track With What You Were Put Here To Do. Dates to be announced shortly. Details:


  1. All what said that are true really isolation is a dream killer and this kind of behaviour can push toward suicide and become drug addict and so on. To find someone to help you in that kind situation is not really easy today we have became too much materialism, thanks God that there are people like you Jenna who are trying to do something.

  2. Hey Jenna,

    Congrats on a fab retreat. The naysayers are jealous! Afraid to move forward themselves so they try and keep you behind the starting line as well.

    Find the un-naysayers!


    • You’re totally right, the naysayers are jealous. Also fearful themselves. So when we do what we are afraid to do, they get scared and try to stop us. :)

  3. This is so on Time for me Jenna.
    This is a very important Key for me with a message that I will cherish for life.
    Thank you for being on my line.
    It is said “When the student is ready, the teacher will come”.
    Today a teacher came. That is true. I received the message.
    I am learning that the teacher comes in all forms and in many ways.
    My back was against a wall and I did not understand what my next move would be.
    Thank you for reminding me that I have supporters and that is why they are there.
    If I care enough for my mission which is much clearer now and share with them, they and myselfl will be better contributors in life and my Mission (business) will expand with their support.
    I have been doing it alone BUT not anymore after today. Thanks
    Looking forward to being a part of your circle someday.
    May God Bless you.

    • Joy, I’m so glad it came at the right time for you. I LOVE it when people tell me that (and it seems to happen often, so cool). I’ll be looking forward to connecting with you more too.

  4. Hi Jenna,

    Thank you for this very timely message! Just in the past few days I’ve been saying to myself that I need to find my people – circle of supporters – to reach out to who actually live in my area. I have many people online but not so much who I can go to in person. This reinforces my intuition and it gives voice to my deepest desire.

    Glad to hear your retreat was a success and I’m eagerly awaiting January’s retreat!

  5. Another great reminder. I always have to remember that I am in charge and to trust my own KNOWLEDGE about my own business. I use to find it annoying that people at networking events would automatically start telling me how to run my business, now I realize I was just giving off an uncertain vibe. So, when it infrequently happens now, I know to step up and say it. The well meaning people were not in my office when I decided what to do. :-)

  6. I have read about 5 of your most recent blogs and my life is flowing in the themes you are writing about. I read your blogs during my “me” time.
    I am currently planting seeds and nurturing my ideas and dreams, and they are slowly but consistently coming along. I value your blogs and videos!

    • Victoria, I’m so glad my blogs and videos are connecting for you. And I love to hear that you are planting seeds and nurturing your dreams and ideas. Keep me posted. :)

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